There is no one-liner definition of Friendship and maybe that is why we all grow up and carve-out our very own definition.

But one thing will always be certain and that is, There will be very few idiots( I prefer calling them buggha or Nalla because they are always available for me😍) that will lie down beside you may be in your house or maybe in their own homes or maybe in any uñexpected place or on a blank highway in the middle of the night, without a word, just quietly holding your hand, observing your pain, counting memories, until you burst out and then these people will beat you and then they walk by your feet holding your hand until they will realize that you are fine.

I have a fire in my heart perhaps I want to fight things by myself, I am pushing my limits to throw out the toxic energies from my life and for that reason, I was ignorant and maybe Selfish. My emotional portions of life were dominating enough to give me the taste of physical pain. The doc told me that I was exactly fine and didn’t even give me any medicine. My body temperature was normal but I could barely move, in fact, for almost 3 days I was in my bed. I was even unable to sit, My eyes were not opening and the doc was still saying that I am all good. I thought that I would be running the very next day and will be exactly fine but sorry friends since I took a lot of time. I hope you people will understand this, After all, you all are my bgs. I haven’t done this on purpose but yes I am sorry for fading away, I am sorry for not being able to pick up your calls, I am sorry for avoiding all of our meetings and I am sorry for everything else.

Please don’t be a “leader”.

Obsession for leadership makes u the weakest person in the room

Reasons “Why You Should not be a leader”

By thataligboy

My lovely audience hope you are doing great! And also, please do remember that great things are not just for a day or two, you honestly need to keep pushing.

I will try to summarize this post in a few bullet points.

1- Being a leader is not as good as it seems, let me elaborate. First of all, do remember that the word “leader” is not only specific to politics, but this word is also used in almost all the fields and streams and areas and specializations. The one who outperforms not only for the sake of reaching and achieving his goals but to help the entire team or group in achieving the predetermined value(vision) is referred to as a leader. However, in recent times the definition of leadership has changed from a person who leads the way to a person who helps and motivate others to build their own path. This leads to the following issues-

  • Lack of appreciation/Recognition – Leaders are now used more bitterly than a tissue paper, people approach leaders with their personal reasons —->> They get their work done ——>> They are gone until they need help again. But do you want to see the other side of the story?

Well, It is not always easy for leaders to build a way or to show a path, but guess what? They can’t say no- yes they can’t say no because you have elected them, they are not humans now, ask them whatever you want, and in case if they are unable to help you then you can always abuse them, right? How many of you even see in their eyes that if they are tired, if they need rest, did they have food, well I have seen many Court members and Secretaries of my own University, rushing up from sleep, wearing that heavy outfit in hot weather and helping you out, and and and for what reasons? For your personal grudges/ failure. In return what they get? Coming back Alone in hot weather pretending to be busy but knowing that no one is there to help them even for a lift because all of you were busy partying( congo, u got ur work done)

2- Ultra bad grades/ Passing marks/personal grudges with the teachers and most importantly Leaders will surely have to go to prison-

  • Well to be honest teachers taught us to be leaders but trust me none of them wants you to argue with them(no matter if you are right or wrong). And this is not all, you know every work or thing that you will lead shall be negotiated and that too very smoothly except the one with your own personal interest. Yes, you can ask anyone, you go to authorities with work or argument that could benefit you ( no matter how right it is), You will receive a “no”. Because it is not only a mere coincidence it is a conspiracy. You were under surveillance since you first argued and this was destined for you as a reward/punishment.
  • And most importantly with your grades, trust me I personally know two Secretary who are in their fifth year of Master and still are struggling to get the Master’s Degree( They are in an infinite loop in which they cannot give their sessionals, and hence need to compensate all the marks from sem exams, which is difficult but not impossible unless you are having a personal grudge with the same teacher).

Through all these years and days If you are tired of abusing them. Then, please take a pause and show some empathy, since you don’t know that while you are at home there are people(leaders) out there trying to help those hundreds of students who are still in the campus.

Someone quoted it right “Depression is real, please be kind to everyone”

Emotionally abusive relationship

Pls read this for two minutes, you must help people around you and especially people in this case.

What is emotional abuse?

Emotional abuse can feel as fatal and damaging as physical abuse, and can harshly impact your mental health. It’s repeatedly used as a way to maintain power and influence over someone.

Types of emotional abuse

Emotional abuse can include any of the following:

  • Verbal abuse: yelling at you, disrespecting you or swearing at you. Constantly blaming you for the anger or irritation.
  • Rejection: Constantly denying your feelings, ideas and opinions. Forcing you to live on their terms and controlling you.
  • Gaslighting: making you doubt your own feelings and thoughts, and even your sanity, by manipulating the truth. Trying to make you feel guilty and responsible for the things that you have not done.
  • Put-downs: calling you names or telling you that you’re stupid, publicly upsetting you, blaming you for everything. Public humiliation is also a form of social abuse. Only showing you one side of the story.
  • Isolation: limiting your freedom of movement, stopping you from contacting other people (such as friends or family). It may also include stopping you from doing the things you normally do – social activities, sports, school or work. Isolating someone overlaps with social abuse.
  • Bullying and intimidation: purposely and repeatedly saying or doing things that are intended to hurt you. Forcing you to get over things that are beyond your capacity, or purposefully tricking you by playing a “guilt Card”.

The effect of emotional abuse

Physical violence is mostly seen as being more serious and dangerous than emotional abuse, but this simply isn’t true. The scars of emotional abuse are real and long-lasting. As well as having a negative impact on your self-esteem and confidence, emotional abuse can leave you feeling depressed, anxious or even suicidal.

Getting support

If you’re facing emotional abuse, it’s important that you seek aid. There are a number of ways you can contact if you need someone to talk to. Try Contacting on the following –

7310718735(Mr- Zishan Hassan)


Most importantly, if you feel scared or speculate then you might be in danger, contact me immediately.

What can I do now?

First and foremost move out of that toxic relationship and secondly take help through counselling and mentorship.

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Ek din ek alfaaz mei sb likh diya ,maine usse kaha maang jo tu chahe.

Kambhakt ne mera naam likh diya.💯

‘A blog with a little bit of everything award’

Hello everyone, well this is a Thanksgiving post and since earlier I never believed in these WordPress awards so I tried avoiding this but now I have been nominated by a Paulian and moreover, she has been doing exceptionally well in blogging, So yes I would, first of all, like to congratulate her for being such an active writer as well as for being so joyous.

Secondly here is the link to her blog, Go and read it

And thirdly here are the rules-


  1. Place the ‘A blog with a little bit of everything award’ on the top of your post.
  2. Thank the person who nominated you, and provide a link to their site.
  3. Tell 4 facts about yourself.
  4. Answer their 5 questions.
  5. Nominate up to 5 more people, and provide a link to their site.
  6. Ask them another 5 questions.
  7. Comment on their posts to let them know that they got nominated for the ‘A blog with a little bit of everything award!’

So let us start –

4 facts about me-


1. What is your favorite flower?

The fragrance of rose, oh! I can’t tell you how much I love roses.

2. What is your favorite color?


3. When did you start blogging on WordPress?

It has been 4 years

4. Your favorite book?

The 4-Hour Workweek (Read it, trust me u will never regret reading it)

5-What sports do you do?

Almost all (Cricket, Football, badminton, wrestling, volleyball)

(I would like to ask same questions to the people I m nominating)

And now my nominations are:-

(this girl writes awesome 💯)

(She is already very established blogger)

(A controversial writer🤐)

(New comer and doing great)

(Big fan,ma’am)

These are all awesome bloggers and trust me you must go through all the listed profiles.

Thank you all (especially to Shagun), keep spreading love audience, kya bolti public?

Too hard to be “loved”.

I wish I could say,

Oh! my jim-dandy, please stay.

I wish I could write, Oh! My favourite, Please hold me tight.

I wish I could rise, Ah! My Darling, please listen to the explanation of my lies.

I wish I could admit that I am missing you a lot, Oh! My dear, I told you that you are a flower pot?

And do you know, what kills? Realising that “I am resistant to sleeping pills”.

Green grasses for green poetry.

Must do things during the quarantine.

Your 2 minutes can make a big difference,How? Read below💨

What is the best gift that you can give to your well-wishers or to the person who has always been with you or to any random person who helped u when u didn’t expected?

In this time of global crisis, we can’t do much but here is something worth doing . All those people who have helped you and healed you when u least expected it , come let us together make one small step to let them know.

Just close your eyes for 29 seconds and think of 3 names that deserve to be here and then log-in and comment on this post about 3 most important names and their contributions into your life and then share this post with them. Top 3 stories will also get a shoutout in my next video. Your small contribution might work as a source of motivation for them. Come on guys this is the time to comment and give them a shout-out, “so let them know”.

Also, keep reading comments in the comment’s box because who knows if someone has just thanked u.

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